Posted by ShopMesh on 25th February 2010

Business Development Training – How To Beat The Fear Of Meeting People

Business Development Training - How To Beat The Fear Of Meeting People

Recently I presented a business development training session at a conference. The audience were managers from all across Australia. I gave them a 2-minute break and asked them to get up and talk amongst themselves.

When we resumed I asked how many of them made a point of meeting someone they didn’t know. One lonely hand went up in the air. Only one!

This was particularly important as the conference workshop was about building effective business relationships.

The moral of the exercise was that we naturally gravitate towards people we know and like. And it is easy to stick with our current network of clients, colleagues and industry contacts.

It can get scary when we have to meet new people.

But – from a business development perspective – it is extremely selfish when we are not brave enough too reach out to people we don’t know.

It is selfish for us to avoid engaging with people with whom we may be able to develop a mutually beneficial relationship.

I have spoken with many clients and training delegates who are reluctant to meet new people. They feel a bit awkward and unsure of themselves.

Does that sound like you too?

In many cases this reluctance is based on self-centred feelings such as:

  • They wont like me.
  • I wont know what to say.
  • I’m no good at small talk.
  • My business in new, and I’ll look like a beginner.
  • They will think I am boring.
  • It feels weird talking to a stranger.
  • They all seem to know each other. I’ll be the odd one out.

It is ironic that most people feel the same way, and could easily comfort each other. Yet everyone keeps to the safe relationships they already know.

So, in our efforts to stay within our comfort zone we act selfishly and do not fully explore new opportunities.

This can be the kiss of death to a service business. Especially for new businesses or those that are trying to expand into new areas. Meeting new people is critical to the success of the organisation.

By meeting – and fully engaging – with new people (prospects, industry partners, or referral sources) we open the doors to:

  • Learning about other businesses.
  • Learning about new opportunities for us.
  • Learning how others achieve their goals.
  • Learning how not to do something.
  • Learning what to do from those who are more experienced.
  • Learning that we can cope with expanding our comfort zone.
  • Learning how to be more successful.

One of the greatest challenges for service providers, professionals, business owners, and new sales people is to have the confidence to strike up new relationships.

You owe it to yourself and to your business (or to your employer).

The tools you will need include:

  • Active listening skills.
  • Flexibility and patience.
  • A true interest in the diversity of other people.
  • A good dose of self-awareness, to control your natural communication urges.
  • A well rehearsed self-introduction; elevator pitch; 30-second introduction; or, audio logo (whichever you prefer to call it).
  • Acceptable social etiquette skills.
  • The discipline to ensure you follow up after the initial contact.

For those who muster the courage, and learn the necessary skills, a whole new world of possibilities and success awaits you.

Question about business development

What is a business development clerk?
I applied for a business development clerk at Toyotatetsu, and i am unsure what the position is. It says knowledge of tool crib and maintaing tools. Does anyone know exactly what the position is? Im trying to do some research on it before i go in for the interview, my interview is thursday, thanks alot!

    10 Responses

  1. Hanny says:

    what is your question?? need details.
    do you want a comparison of how people look at Business development

  2. guzen says:

    thanks a lot for your advice, verry usefull

  3. A lot of newer companies overlook the effectiveness of joining the local Chamber of Commerce. By being an ACTIVE member, you have numerous opportunities to network with those searching for the services that you provide. You build relationships with leaders in the community, and in turn, become well known within the community. It sounds simple, but it works if you take the time to attend all of the networking events and build relationships. Let your personality shine…don’t be a salesperson at the events, be a friend, and the business will come!

  4. Ahmed A says:

    Sales are people that sale stuff, like car salesman
    Marketing – market a product, not necessary outcome into a sale. More of promoting the products espeically new ones.

    Business Development – nowadays corporations go for this instead of the above. The tasks are wider. One need to understand the market, know their clients needs and wants, and research to develop the product that the market needs. Promote and market them. Make a sale.

    This is what i understood.

  5. miyoshi82 says:

    If you really want to own your own business you will need to understand that SALES is the ONLY place where ALL the money is.

    If you are looking for work at home big money with no work, I'm sure you will get 500 answers advertising their down-line.

    Invest the money in your business, not their scams. There is NO EASY money.

  6. Luckyme1 says:

    The best information on quality MBA programs is found in the Official MBA Guide, a free public service at http://officialmbaguide.org. It enables you to locate MBA programs worldwide that best fit your criteria and preferences.

  7. Kevin says:

    Yeah. Business development is typically inside sales and support. In these positions, you support outside sales staff. Order management may be required – you do what’s necessary to move orders through ‘the system.’ You’ll also establish relationships with customers, sales staff, and other internal organizations. Idle time is spent calling prospects on behalf of your sales staff and building upon any leads – and you will therefore forward pertinent info to your sales staff.

  8. CRAZY PHYSIO says:

    Most people who go to physio are either from doctors – or personal trainers at gyms. The other source is sports teams – consider even high school teams.

    Get to personally know doctors and trainers – this can be done through personal networking at chamber meetings, rotary or other group meetings.

    Another thing to consider is hosting an after hours function at your location – use the Chamber or other local organization that does these and be a host – then make sure you have proper promotional material geared towards doctors and personal trainers and sports teams. – Hand them out.

  9. Dil says:

    Hello Dil,

    Good luck to you! I can imagine it must be a tough choice to make. If you already have a payed job that pays more then the fixed salary minus penalty pinch I'd say think twice about it. I'm sure there is a good reason why they have this penalty.

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